Coming a full circle

everything comes back a full circle. be it in life or in a relationship or in accounting. the key thing to note here is balance. in a fair test of flipping a coin, both sides have to have equal probability of occurance. if the balance of fairness is missing, the results dont even out. and same goes for life, relationships and accounting. if you can't balance out the opposite aspects of it, you can't experience the full impact.

so lets go from the more specific to the more ubiquitous. accounting first. the rule says debit comes in and credit goes out. the same transaction has to have two sides to it, and only then can you balance the balance sheet. sounds funny, but i guess they named the sheet that way just to doubly emphasize on what needs to be done. in relationships the key is to balance the male and female energies. both individuals have complicated percentages of both of these energies and exhibit them differently. the man needs space, the woman needs independence. it is the same need of freedom but in different situations and in different ways. the man needs a centrifugal force to stabilize him, the woman needs support to help her face the world. this can be extrapolated to trust, affection, companionship and more. and the rule to balance a relationship is communication, which includes both to convey and to grasp. not just to tell and to listen. and with time, as relationships mature, the individuals mirror each other in an increasingly synchronized way.

and same goes for life too. from personal experience, i remember the interview at IIMC and how i was unable to convince them why i needed an MBA to run an NGO. My conscience struggled with that, it never left me at peace. And then began the shifting assignments, the incessant search for my passion, the continued turbulence. when i got to IESE, the first of my struggles was laid to rest. that of pursuing an MBA, without shying away from that complicated streak of engaging in social development. the albatross of rejecting a final call finally came off my neck. and then i dived deeper into the bigger struggle of finding my passion. consulting was it, i thought before i got here. i like talking and thats what consultants do. then the banking tour and the london experience happened, and i thought banking it is, i love numbers!! and then i signed up for the responsible club and in a moment the familiar struggle of past 5 years flashed before my eyes. but the contraints were not very far away. i have an elephant of a loan, i want to get married and settle down soon. how soon, i dont know. but with that, i was back at where i had started, completing a full circle.

there are manipulations, that drive you away from the balancing out the circle. sometimes you wander away from the center and though it does delay the process, it cannot interrupt it. you eventually learn how to balance the balance sheet, to find where the missing entry went. in a relationship, you learn to be in the other person's shoes and to be empathetic to his point of view. and in life, you learn to remember where the origin is, where you have come from, coz in the end that is where you will go. this is the philosophy of life that is reflected in all religions. you just need to acknowledge and experience it.