in defense of womankind

we are as normal as men think men to be normal. we are just different on a different scale. kind of like we are Centigrade normal while men are Fahrenheit normal. having set that context, i would like to state a few more key differentiating elements of that scale - for the benefit of one and all. these are definitely applicable to all women and after that we all have our own quirks, dont we?

we like to hug. hugging is not a seductive physical activity for us. its a gesture of affection, of conveying all that you feel without having to demean emotions into things like words. it makes us feel warm and cozy and comfortable that you are not embarrassed by the hug. it gets even better if you demonstrate affection like stroke our hair and pull us close. and we like to hug a lot. its like smiling and passing on that smile. i just want to hug you, or i just want you to hold me, mean exactly the same things for us. its not deferring further action, its just a different action, a different communication. just like saying i want an appetizer doesn't mean i dont want to have main course or dessert.

we love talking. if we are asked how our day was, we explain how our day was. we dont say pretty good to that question. if we are asked what we do all day, we say what we did all day. we dont say nothing much to that question. so ask us the question accordingly. we give details because we like to know details. we keep talking because we want to fill the silence, hoping something we might say might remind you of something interesting to tell us. just like it reminds us. we keep talking till you remember something to interrupt us and start describing to us. when communicating over sms or call while at work, we can multitask. talking with you doesnt mean we stop working. we can do both and we dont realise you cant. we also dont realise that its tough for you to take out time of work to answer to us. when you dont answer we think the conversation is not important enough, or you dont have anything to say. coz thats when we would not answer.

we believe in strategic and timely conversations. and we dont forget small details. so we remember when you are nice to us and when you are not nice to us. we use a example for an argument when it is most appropriate. we dont like to crib all the time. so we collect related incidents, draw the hypothesis and test it all out at once. we are not being vicious, we are just being efficient - cite the argument and support it with facts.

we think a lot. and all the time. and we dont do it consciously. when we want to empty our minds or thought, we meditate. we dont stare. and we like to know what others are thinking, it helps us strike a conversation. we dont mean to intrude, we dont mean to interrupt your meditation or staring. "what are you thinking" is a conversation starter and cannot elicit the response "nothing". we just dont understand how you can think nothing. we try and we fail. we even try to think nothing and we fail at that too. but i guess for you to understand how we can always be thinking is even more of a puzzle. check out this link to have the situation broken down and explained.

well so thats a summary to start with, hope some find it useful.. thanks to this movie scene.. :)