Forgiveness

i first heard this song at the suggestion of a friend. it is a beautiful song by Eagles, you need to search by the name 'the heart of the matter'.. talks about forgiveness in love, in life.. i remembered this song when i was looking through my personality assessment report. it put forgiveness as one of my weaknesses, and honestly, i had a mixed reaction. i know i dont forgive easily, unless i.e. if i forget, and in a way i have taken it as a symbol of strength and self preservation. but the assignment in my ethics course (which was to follow the personality assessment) got me thinking about it again.

am i like the protagonist of "devil wears prada" who smiles back at her colleague, even she is less qualified and more nasty? or am i like the protagonist of "devil wears prada" who throws the mobile off into the fountain just after her devil of a boss has expressedthat she is now ready to evolve and reach her boss's heights.. maybe both, maybe neither.. i like to be a good person, and so does everyone. i don't like to be taken for a ride, adn i certainly don't entertain nonsensical behaviour. if it doesnt make sense, it doesnt. but there are exceptions for people who are genuine, for people i like..

but pressing issue about forgiveness is to not get into a tit for tat game. someone hurts you, but you dont have to behave like him to make him realise how bad it felt. coz then there is no difference between you and him, and you fall into a vicious circle of each trying to demonstrate the other faults. like i said earlier, you are just relegated to a mirror of faults.

and the key solution is to realise that everything is not meant to revolve around you.. its not meant to hurt you, its just meant to be and in the process it happened to hurt you. so you let it happen its way and you go your way. if it hurts you, you let it go and start afresh. without having to forget, you are forgiving. letting go of the knot for more yarn to come in.. and maybe the knot will dissolve on its own sometime unexpectedly soon..